A Difficult Woman

Women are sometimes miserable to each other. Commonly, a weaker woman will say something incendiary and then run away. Perhaps they have the comfort of a group or position to shield them from their actions. This behavior is beyond cowardly. If the receiver sidesteps the verbal Molotov cocktail and goes to speak with the offender, trouble begins. Seeking open communication with a passive aggressive person can lead one to the label of difficult.

What makes a woman difficult? I have come to figure out a difficult woman is one who does not put up with nonsense from either gender. She is someone who does not back down when someone is trying to show their dominance. She allows herself an out from any situation whether it is a job, a relationship, friendship or even her head. There is an assumption that a woman has to stay. Perhaps it is biological with the mother being the backbone of the family and the challenge to be mobile during pregnancy. To leave a group situation may be social suicide as a woman is expected to stay no matter the challenges.

A girl who says no is usually punished, rarely praised. A girl that sticks up for herself can threaten their culture with one word. What if more women said no? Would we still have a glass ceiling or a need to shame? The ones usually holding other women back are not men, they are other women. Girls tend the travel in packs, even after they leave the hallways of high school. They can still start rumors or call into question a person’s moral character with the raise of any eyebrow as women. We put up with it though so we will not be on the receiving end. Having a pack of girls go after you at any age is frightening. A woman that goes after another woman in a professional setting is particularly heinous.

I can still recall with most of the trouble I’ve had with other women started when I simply did not want to hang out with them. Gossip is not my idea of a good time nor is tip-toeing through the swamp of girl world. The most striking characteristic of a crocodile is that they have no natural curiosity. They are keen on observing, much like yours truly. It is rare for me to be interested in the talks of other people’s lives. If they want to share, I’m all ears. However, a real character one that a writer is actually interested in does not squawk all day of their importance through putting others down. This unwillingness to pretend in someone’s importance is not always perceived the right way. Someone who does not want to talk smack about another person is treated with suspicion. A girl that does not care about another girl’s outfit seems to violate some unspoken girl code that smack must be talked at any given moment. A woman who does not let her boss talk to her like a child can be on the chopping block.

These girl bashing actions and inactions are ridiculous. If women stopped trying to dominate each other and felt apathy towards the queen bee, there would time left over for topics such as the kidnapped girls in Nigeria or supporting each other enough to take over the world.

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